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There is a difference between living for others and living to ‘serve’ (need a better word) others.

When living for others, you lose who you are and in the process, any value you may have had for the other person(s) is devalued. You are now a commodity, easily replaceable because you constantly live trying to fit another’s idea of you and you find that you are never quite good enough. That is because only that other person knows what you are expected to be, and whatever that expectation is, you are not it. Anybody will do, it doesn’t have to be you. To be fair, if you are not ready to identify who you are, why do you expect the other person to value you at all?

When you live to serve others, with kindness, with an outlook to improve the lot of those less fortunate, or those around you in unfortunate circumstance or simpler still, just to bring cheer, then that is *pure*, unadulterated you – and if you find yourself accepted for who you are, the need to change yourself to fit another’s idea of you quickly dissipates. A healthier life, and a healthier, clear mind.

Hopefully, slowly over time, your idea of happiness depends less and less on waiting on another person’s will or approval.